Basic needs. If you have love, your heart is always full, and you will pass that contentment around to help and love others. You will live your life as it is meant to be lived with eyes wide open. You will have a trueness that is only visualized by others that have the same thing that you have. So, say that the energy that you are exuding is a most valid statement. People who have love and know that they are loved always carry themselves differently. Their heads are held a lot higher and they are more confident in themselves. If you do not believe this, just think back and remember when you first fell in love, whether with your spouse/lover or your very first time falling. You feel this connection with another human being. The flowers seem to be brighter, everyone else seems to be happier and generally everything that you are seeing seems to have a different vibe all around. You become giddy. Yeah, I said giddy. Things are not taken as seriously as before. The cynic inside of you is now silenced. You start to feel the confidence that you were searching for, and this other being has found it for you, right? No, not really. Actually, that confidence inside you is just that; inside you. Perhaps you are unable to see it on your own and you need that other person in order to see or visualize it; whatever it takes; it was inside of you all along. To fall in love is to see possibilities that you previously were unable to see. It is like getting glasses.
To be accepted is such a need that we all have. I know that some of you are out there saying that it is not true, that you don't need this at all; you are a lone wolf and you are all right being the anti-everything person. To you I say, you are lying to yourself. Even those who are against everything have this basic need to have someone hear and listen to them, to accept their points of view, to be heard. If this wasn't the case, then you wouldn't be the original that you truly are. Everyone needs a platform. Here is something heavy, really heavy, but is something that I believe that there is truth to. The man who abuses his wife and children, beats them until their pain is literally bleeding from their bodies only wants to be heard. It is a lot deeper than having his wife and children listen to his rants. It is a lot more than control. It is a lot more than being the 'man of the household.' His rage is coming from a place deep within himself that boils down to a few words. Frustration and fear. I do not know how his life was before he was put to the point of beating his wife and kids, but I do know that long before them there was a point where he needed to be heard and listened to and that need was left unfilled, and a bully was born. This well of frustration has manifested itself into fear, the fear of being irrelevant and not feeling wanted. He has learned inappropriate ways of dealing with his feelings, and he will and does resort to what is basic, the need to destroy. Is his intent to destroy his family? No. He is beating himself with every blow that he throws at his wife and children. He is beating them because he sees in them the strength that he does not have in himself. He is beating them just to release the pain that he is feeling. I may understand some parts of this behaviour but I need to clarify something; I do not agree with this behaviour. I just want to point that out before people start jumping down my throat. I do not feel anything, quite frankly, towards any man that would beat his family. I have always been a BIG believer in CHOICE. We are very special beings. We can make a choice about our behaviours. The idea that I was just attempting to demonstrate is that everyone has this need of being accepted.
Imagine laying in a hammock and just being there and listening to all the wonderful sounds of nature. There may be a pair of birds chirping and conversing back and forth to one another. Perhaps a squirrel is yelling at you because somehow you are too close to his storage space, unbeknownst to you. Maybe it is early in the morning and the sky is now displaying beautiful colours; oranges, pinks, greys, purples and blues. You are looking at that sky trying to distinguish how many colours you can see, how many different ones you are able to pick out. The wonders of our universe are right before you and you are seeing it. You realize you just stared at the sky for...you don' t know how long, and somehow you don't care either. You have been in a little oasis of your own. You crawl out of that hammock, 'cause really that is the only way to get out of it. You remember as a child falling asleep in the hammock, and waking up a little disoriented, but you were suddenly happier. This memory makes you smile and enjoy your space just a little more. The grass below your feet is cool but still refreshing. You can feel the mud squish between your toes, a little, not a lot. The old trees holding that hammock have notches in the bark where the hammock is tied up. For a split second, you realize the fortune that you have with actually having two trees close enough together to hang this hammock...Hmph...Oh the wonders!
I live in Canada. I am extremely fortunate to live in Canada. I can visualize sitting around and passing time on a hammock next to a lake, or in a backyard. I do not have bombs exploding around me, or have my rights stripped aways from me because I am a woman. I know that I am able to find peace. I have peace. I am able to calm my mind and see all that is, was, and will be. My peace comes from being happy, being able to look at all things with a little light, even the darkest things. Happy Does It is a philosophy of being whole by being in the moment and appreciating what you have right now. We all need to take time, slow down, and look a little past our own noses. We need to recognize that we are not perfect beings, but we are perfectly flawed. We have needs and wants. Our true fulfillment though, comes from within us.
Love, Acceptance and Peace
Happy Does It! :o)