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Knowing When to Throw in the Towel

5/7/2012

 
I am not a quitter.  I have never, ever been a quitter.  In fact, to this day, I still smoke cigarettes occasionally, even though I know that they are bad for me, just so I will not force myself to do something against my nature and quit.  For those of you who don’t know me very well, that was, of course, a grand use of hyperbole.

Here is a piece of advice that I would like to bestow upon you:  when you are doing something and you are not getting the result that you expect to get, you can either accept the answer you found, search for something that may or may not happen, or you can change everything completely.  Confusing advice, right?  It is not really advice; it is more like a string of possibilities.  That is just my point.  If you are satisfied with life, then you will not have any of these problems.  You will forever be in the world and live within the limits of your life.  That is wonderful.  If this is you, I am so happy for you.  I really am.  You are blessed with the life that satisfies you and you are not longing for something else.  If you find yourself not being part of the blessed group of people I just discussed, then you are part of my group.  The group that is constantly changing scenery, attempting to find that one place where you are at peace.  The place where the noise lessens to a whisper and the stress level is nil to negative nil.  

I love to live.  That, for me, is what makes my life more worth living than anything else.  I am a firm believer that the living is in the journey, the love is the pathway, and my willingness to be strong is my guide.  I have had to make many, many, different and difficult decisions in my life.  Like, for example, making the decision to quit something, or stop doing something.  This, for me, is not an easy decision to make, because I am the most stubborn person you will ever meet.  I have been known to physically hurt myself because I refused to believe that I was not strong enough to do something.  I think this is also known as stupidity, but who needs to think of it that way?

There does come a time when you need to throw in the towel.  There may be many reasons why this is a great decision, but most importantly, it has to be right for you.  I had to make a very difficult decision just recently, and I know that it is the right decision because there is no regret or misgivings regarding the decision that I have made.  This is not a major thing for me, but it is difficult because I feel like I am letting myself down. But the reality of it is, I am actually saying to myself that enough is enough.  I need to realize that I need my time, and I need to use it wisely.

Enough is enough.  We hear these words, but most people choose not to act on them.  They will say it, perhaps in a conversation, but it is only those who believe it that will actually take those words and put them into action.  So many people are afraid of standing out, causing a stir, becoming someone like “the unsinkable (and memorable) Margaret (Molly) Brown.”  She was( for those who don’t know) a wealthy socialite who was on the Titanic, and who brought light to a dark situation and made the men of lifeboat #6 go back and look for survivors.   She refused to let things be as they were, and said in her mind, “Enough is enough,” and she brought forth an action that may have saved lives.  It is not being brave; it is having the ability to do what is right.  It is funny how she became well known for something that should be natural for us all, to help others.

Sometimes what life really comes down to is whether or not you choose the right path.  A lot of people look back at their lives and feel like they should have done something differently, but what they really need to understand is that the decisions that they made for themselves back then were the best decisions for them at that time.  I try not to live my life with regret.  I know that I am not the same person that I was back then. I often hear myself saying to myself, all the time, "If I only knew then what I know now."  Hey, I think that that is just the universe’s way of letting us know that we are all human, and we are all made to make mistakes.  We all need to make mistakes and we all need to have successes as well.   The key to being happy is living in just that way.  Breathing in the opportunities and recognizing the times when the white flag goes up and you have to surrender to the truth.  Being happy is being able to look at yourself in the mirror, everyday, knowing that you have done your very best for you.  You are the one that has the power to decide your own fate.  {No, let me correct that}  You are the one that has the power to choose your own fate.  If you choose to live happy, then you will try everyday to find that little piece of happy; that smile or cup of coffee, that favourite bakery with that sweet aroma of freshly baking bread, or that favourite book that always reminds you of some place that you have been or want to go to.  You live with the key.  You possess the key.  You have the key; it has been there all this time.  You are the only person who can truly make you happy.  You need to believe that you are able and deserve to be free.  You will see the world like I see it.  You will value life and treasure moments.  The more 'happy' you see and receive, the more you will want.  You will be a person who understands that life is a blessing, but it is not a pre-determined destiny.  Life is for the living, and living requires you to be active. 

As Always,

Happy Does It! :o)

Here is some food for thought....

5/3/2012

 
I am going to post a poem that I read a long time ago, but it had a profound affect on my life.  It is actually quite funny because I never knew who wrote it until recently

I hope that you enjoy this one as much as I do.
Children Learn What They Live
By Dorothy Law Nolte, Ph.D.



If children live with criticism, they learn to condemn.
If children live with hostility, they learn to fight.
If children live with fear, they learn to be apprehensive.
If children live with pity, they learn to feel sorry for themselves.
If children live with ridicule, they learn to feel shy.
If children live with jealousy, they learn to feel envy.
If children live with shame, they learn to feel guilty.
If children live with encouragement, they learn confidence.
If children live with tolerance, they learn patience.
If children live with praise, they learn appreciation.
If children live with acceptance, they learn to love.
If children live with approval, they learn to like themselves.
If children live with recognition, they learn it is good to have a goal.
If children live with sharing, they learn generosity.
If children live with honesty, they learn truthfulness.
If children live with fairness, they learn justice.
If children live with kindness and consideration, they learn respect.
If children live with security, they learn to have faith in themselves and in those about them.
If children live with friendliness, they learn the world is a nice place in which to live.

Copyright © 1972 by Dorothy Law Nolte

As Always, 

Happy Does it!  :o)

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    My name is Jaime, spelled with an "im" not "mi".  I never question myself. I have always loved writing.  I do not have much to say about myself.  I just want everyone to know that they are not alone.  There is nothing worse in life than feeling as if you are by yourself.

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