Doing what is right is never the easiest thing to do. This may sound cliché to some but I believe that anything worth having is worth working for. And this includes standing up for yourself; knowing that conflict will arise. It is easy to go with the flow and not ruffle too many feathers, but when you do this you loose yourself and your own identity.
I personally hate conflict. It brings up so much anxiety inside me, that I will be sick to my stomach. Oh no, maybe not right away, but I pay for it all later on. The only comfort that I can have is knowing that what I am doing is the right thing. People will treat you the way that you allow them; so if you let them walk all over you, you are not doing yourself any favours.
Today, My Love and I had to do something that has been coming a long time. There is a particular, let's say 'evil force', that is destroying our peaceful lives, and we both decided enough was enough. Together went went and filed court documents against this said 'evil force', and from the moment I did it, I haven't felt at ease, but I know exactly why. I don't like conflict, so I put up with a lot of grief from many unpleasant angles. But I too have a limit, but the action has to be egregious. You have to cross a boundary, of being amoral or just an overall awful human being. Most people have no idea what they unleash when they get full on focused, pissed off me. Years ago I would be super emotional when I was upset, but now I am scary calm, and very logical. My brain will focus on ways to end it, in my favour, every time.
I firmly believe that when you feel in every part of your body, mind and spirit that what you are doing is the right thing, then it is. I associate my own moral compass to being tethered to the ground. I had some excellent people in my life that have strongly influenced how I behave and how I will not behave. I had to grow up pretty fast so I didn't have a normal childhood. But I am not the only person who hasn't had an ideal upbringing. It's alright. It made my soul age a little faster then most of my peers. I knew and appreciated how precious life is at the age of ten, and how stupid to me it was that people would be concerned with so many things that didn't mean anything. I was kind of an odd-ball. I tried to fit in, but I never felt comfortable. I never felt at home. There was no one that really understood me, sure they could sympathize, but they didn't understand.
It wasn't until I was a teenager that I realized that all teenagers feel the way that I was feeling when I was ten. Kind of interesting. It all comes full circle. So now, many years later, I stand up for myself. I will contest any bully and I will not be anyone's victim.
Doing the right this is a concept that needs to have a comeback. Stand up to bullies, but understand that they are that way because they know no other way of being. Empathize with them. Don't let them win, defeat them with compassion
You will be alright. Being happy requires a balance of many aspects of you life. Conflict is just one small part. Remember you are your own wonderful self. You deserve to have the world know you. :o)
I personally hate conflict. It brings up so much anxiety inside me, that I will be sick to my stomach. Oh no, maybe not right away, but I pay for it all later on. The only comfort that I can have is knowing that what I am doing is the right thing. People will treat you the way that you allow them; so if you let them walk all over you, you are not doing yourself any favours.
Today, My Love and I had to do something that has been coming a long time. There is a particular, let's say 'evil force', that is destroying our peaceful lives, and we both decided enough was enough. Together went went and filed court documents against this said 'evil force', and from the moment I did it, I haven't felt at ease, but I know exactly why. I don't like conflict, so I put up with a lot of grief from many unpleasant angles. But I too have a limit, but the action has to be egregious. You have to cross a boundary, of being amoral or just an overall awful human being. Most people have no idea what they unleash when they get full on focused, pissed off me. Years ago I would be super emotional when I was upset, but now I am scary calm, and very logical. My brain will focus on ways to end it, in my favour, every time.
I firmly believe that when you feel in every part of your body, mind and spirit that what you are doing is the right thing, then it is. I associate my own moral compass to being tethered to the ground. I had some excellent people in my life that have strongly influenced how I behave and how I will not behave. I had to grow up pretty fast so I didn't have a normal childhood. But I am not the only person who hasn't had an ideal upbringing. It's alright. It made my soul age a little faster then most of my peers. I knew and appreciated how precious life is at the age of ten, and how stupid to me it was that people would be concerned with so many things that didn't mean anything. I was kind of an odd-ball. I tried to fit in, but I never felt comfortable. I never felt at home. There was no one that really understood me, sure they could sympathize, but they didn't understand.
It wasn't until I was a teenager that I realized that all teenagers feel the way that I was feeling when I was ten. Kind of interesting. It all comes full circle. So now, many years later, I stand up for myself. I will contest any bully and I will not be anyone's victim.
Doing the right this is a concept that needs to have a comeback. Stand up to bullies, but understand that they are that way because they know no other way of being. Empathize with them. Don't let them win, defeat them with compassion
You will be alright. Being happy requires a balance of many aspects of you life. Conflict is just one small part. Remember you are your own wonderful self. You deserve to have the world know you. :o)
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